Oh, how I remember that thought from my youth. Some of my earliest memories include my disbelief that whatever was happening wasn’t fair. Adding insult to injury, my single-digit-aged mind couldn’t understand when my parents responded, “well, sometimes life isn’t fair.”
Honestly, most of the time my whining had to do with one of my sisters getting an extra dessert, or my perceived sense that my assigned chore was the worst of the day. When you’re under 10, chores are the epitome of unreasonableness.
Fast forward a half century and I still have a strong sense of fair and unfair. Of course, I understand life isn’t always fair, but it still makes me seethe a little. I now have the ability to right my perceived wrong or choose to walk away. I find that more often than not, I choose to walk away. After all, I’m responsible for my own happiness and arguing with someone who feels strongly about their version of right versus mine isn’t usually worth the effort.
I have always told my children (and now my grandchildren) that arguing with someone who is convinced they are right just frustrates you and angers them. In the end, no one wins. Even if you know you are right, walking away is often a better way to win. It’s the same with fair and unfair.
It harkens back to the serenity prayer: “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
Gaining that wisdom took a long time, but once I did, it was easy to find my joy and peace. Life is about making choices. You can choose to be the victim, or you can choose to rise above the noise and unfairness and live the life YOU want.
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