It's Your Life. Live It!

As Valentine’s Day approaches, my social media feeds have been flooded with pearls of wisdom about love and relationships. One in particular caught my eye. It suggested what is needed in a relationship is real communication, not perfection. I was perplexed — if you don’t already have that, are you really in a good relationship?

Judy and I talked about it. We both agreed what relationships really need is both partners to stoke the fire. 

Relationships, like fire, start with sparks that turn into flames. To keep the fire going, you must continually add fuel. One adds a log, as does the other, each time bringing more heat. The more fuel you add, the longer the fire keeps burning and the hotter it gets. 

It’s easy to think about this in sexual terms, but it’s also about communication and sharing emotions. Both partners need to keep the fire burning. If one partner doesn’t do their part, then the other is left to try and stoke the flames alone. Eventually, that person will get tired of doing all the work and simply stop. And what happens when you don’t add fuel to the fire? It dies.

Remember, fire is fundamental to human life. To have a relationship that is full of life, you must stoke the flames.

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